Those of us in our sixties may excuse ourselves from anything resembling a dream or a new mission in life. Convincing yourself that it’s too late to write a book or start a new business is a copout.
The Dream Matters
Your dreams matter, regardless of when they choose to surface. We often recognize our dreams and the gifts we were given to pursue them when we were kids. But until recently, any of those dreams that had to do with creativity were dismissed as impractical. So we bury it. Once we’re ready to release the stresses of life, often because of maturity, those dreams come bubbling back to the surface. Here you are, 60 years old with an unfulfilled dream you had completely forgotten about.
Practicality Does Still Exist
Of course, if your dream was to be the quarterback for the Patriots, my money is on that not happening. But what about writing a novel about that dream instead. The fact is, if you really are too late for the dream of your childhood, it doesn’t mean you can’t build on that dream in other ways.
Make It So
At 64, I’m finally starting to get serious about my writing, with plans to build an online business around that writing. Nobody online that needs help with something gives a rip how old I am. If there’s something I can share that will be of value to them, I will serve it and they will consume it.
Use It Or Lose It
As a senior citizen, the one thing you have that many other entrepreneurs don’t have is life experience. Even if you’re embarking on a new business venture that you know little about going in, you have the gift of life that has taken root as common sense. People these days need that common sense and lots of it. You know it and I know it.
Don’t back away just because you’re just now recognizing that dream for what it is. Clear that path and claim your peace. You deserve it.
What plans are you pursuing at this late season of your life? I’d love to hear about it.
I was recently reminded of the power of words when I heard a simple phrase, “We have to go to church.” The words we use to say things can make an amazing difference in the response we get. Telling a child they have to go to church is a prime example. Even as adults, we know that being told we have to do something takes the joy out of it. It’s all about the attitude reflected in our words.
Many of us have been affected in some way by alcoholism or drug addiction. Even if we ourselves didn’t partake, someone we love may have ruined lives, even their own, because of it. When we think about 12-step recovery programs, we think about these people or people like them.
But what about the rest of us? Read more
I am proud, almost giddy, to say, I no longer have file cabinets in my office. None. Notta. That’s right. I’ve achieved paperless status. I don’t even have a desk with a file drawer in it. My desk is a simple writers desk. A top drawer (the fold down for a keyboard type, which I hate) and two very tiny side drawers. David Allen would be proud. Read more
When my wife and I packed up and left Florida to move all the way out to California, we agreed that we would not be hauling all the crap we owned at the time. A couple months before the move, we started shedding the clutter, and I mean shedding big. Read more
Have you ever wondered what all the fuss is about journaling? Yeah. Me too. I started journaling off and on many years ago. Mostly off. I’ve tried to be motivated by so many journaling styles it would make your head spin. Online journals. Paper journals. Computer journals. Journaling apps on my phone. You name it, I’ve wasted money on it.
Home Is Where the Keyboard Is
As I write more books and work on building a business around the writing, I often wonder where I would like to live and operate from. We’re in California now and I have a hard time envisioning this as the place. But it could be. After all, this is where almost all the kids and grandkids are. Of course, that makes any decision to move, a tough one.
I think a lot about the home country. By that I mean southern Ohio, Kentucky, Tennessee. I grew up in a neighborhood on top of a hill about 15 miles north of Cincinnati. It was quiet. Everybody knew everybody. And us kids never seemed to spend much time inside the house. We were always on our bicycles or out in the woods somewhere.
It Never Stays the Same
Our house is gone now, replaced by my cousin’s new house. My dad sold the property to them many years ago when my folks moved down to western Kentucky. In fact, there is a lot of new construction all over that hill. Big fine homes, and a golf course. At least on one side of the hill. The other side is still quiet and simple. I love that side of the hill. And I love the memories of what used to be on the other side of the hill. Horse farms, pastures, barns, and friends. Lots of friends.
To Buy or Not to Buy
That hill is on my mind today because one of the houses is for sale. I watched the house being built on top of that hill. I might have been six or seven years old. I loved going up and watching the construction. The builders paid me $1 a bucket for picking up rocks from the front yard. In hindsight, I guess it was merely a ploy to keep me out of their way. But I thought I was doing something constructive.
I’m seriously considering the purchase of that house because the pictures of the upstairs bedroom, with its hardwood floors, looks like a place I would want to write. I know that wherever we move to next, will be the final destination. Well, you know, the final destination before the final destination. I still have a couple cousins up on that hill. One would live right across the street from me.
So, I’m looking for my final writing place. I feel like I have many more books still in me. Many stories to tell. I’m just looking forward to finding my home to do it.
Where is your dream home?
One of the things that can intrude upon our joy and prevent us from following the dream is our financial standing or lack thereof.
What’s That Got to Do With My Dream?
When we’ve been entrusted with a dream, it seems like life tries everything it can do to get in the way of it. I would venture to say that most of us had our dream purged from us when we were kids when we tried to tell everyone what we wanted to be when we grew up. If your dreams had anything to do with creativity, they were most certainly discredited as useless and you were told that it’s not a practical path for your life. And that was that. Or so you thought.
Probably one of my favorite music artists of all time is Julie Fowlis, and I only learned of her existence a few years ago. Of course, she has yet to surpass my all-time music hero, James Taylor. But she runs a pretty close second.
It’s a Gift
It’s just about that time again. If you’ve been given the gift of 2018, it’s time to set some meaningful goals for the new year. I don’t mean the New Year’s Resolution kind of goals. I mean real goals that you really want to achieve to work toward your dream. The pursuit of that dream is what will bring you joy. So I think we really need to take it seriously.
Not Always Perfect
I didn’t do too well with my goals for 2017–especially the one about losing 50 pounds. Didn’t happen. But we can’t beat ourselves up over such things. I feel much better prepared emotionally to tackle that one again in 2018.
The beauty of setting goals is the clarity it provides us. I have many things to do to build a business around my writing. Not only am I writing my third book, I’m also planning to create some online courses and create more videos. I’ve been considering a podcast but that may have to wait until 2019 if it still makes sense then.
What tools do you use to help you get through your goal setting? Michael Hyatt and Dan Miller both have some excellent resources as far as tools to gather our thoughts. I use Evernote for just about everything. In fact, one of my courses will be Evernote for Writers. I use Scrivener for the actual writing, but my goals and action steps will reside in Evernote. I’ll provide some specific opportunities for goal setting help in a future post. Start thinking about the steps you need to take to find joy and let’s start working on it.
What are you doing to get ready for goal setting season?
In a previous post, I defined what a coach is, and how one can help guide you through life transitions, career challenges, and goal setting. Today I’m going to go over five reasons why a worship leader should hire a coach.
If you’re a worship leader, you could greatly benefit from hiring a coach. While worship leaders often seek out training opportunities for their praise teams in pursuit of excellence, they rarely seek out a personal coach for their own wellbeing.
It’s no secret that worship leading can be very draining.
As a worship leader, you may find yourself in front of the congregation on Sunday morning with an empty heart, going through the motions, barely aware of your purpose and what’s going on around you.
If you are a volunteer leader, you may have had a trying week at your day job. Perhaps you had an unusually rough rehearsal with the team the week before. Or, maybe you had to fire someone from the praise team and it’s weighing heavily on your heart.
Or, just maybe, you’re knocking on the door of burnout. Read more
There’s been a lot said and written lately about abandoning your day job and the work you think you have to do, in order to find your dream job so you can do the work you love to do. Is it really that easy? Probably not for most of us. But it’s still an achievable goal that everyone in this day and age should be pursuing.
So what does it take?
Sometimes finding your joy means starting a business to follow your dream. But if you’re going to start a business, be serious from the beginning. NEVER publish a lame email address. Check out this article by Donna Reade. Click on the image below.
Finding joy often takes a closer look at the temple. Your health can prevent you from following a dream if it’s neglected. Check out this post by Maria Avery by clicking the image below.
Why would anyone need a coach?
You mean like a football coach? No, I mean like a leadership coach or a life coach. Many people use terms like coaching, counseling, consulting, and mentoring interchangeably. They are in fact, very different professions and specialties with very different objectives. In order to get to the heart of why we should have one of these, let’s first look at how the International Coaching Federation (ICF) defines each one and differentiates them from coaching. Read more
As with most of you, this idea of “love the sinner, hate the sin,” has been with me as long as I can remember. But the idea has always made me tense. It’s too convenient. For one, it isn’t in the Scriptures. Oh, one could probably thread some verses together to make it seem obvious. But at the very least, we need to be careful with it. Read more
I know I’ve written quite a bit about church unity and its importance to the Kingdom. But I was usually referring to the prayer that Jesus prayed in John 17—still one of my all-time favorite chapters. The more I pay attention to it, the more I understand that this is no small potatoes. Unity really is what God intended, and I’m convinced that the man-made divisions within the church, over relatively insignificant differences, are creating a great deal of harm. Last week as I was reading, another one of those verses jumped out at me. This happens often to me after multiple readings. In this case, it was Acts 9:31.
During a Men’s Group meeting at my church a few weeks ago, our preacher gave us a series of questions to answer at our tables as an ice-breaker. The first question was, “If a friend came to you, thinking about committing his life to Jesus and asked you what he would have to give up in order to become a Christian, what would you tell him?” Or something along those lines. Read more
Is the use of instruments in worship still even a real argument? You bet it is. If you ever feel the urge to get in the middle of a heated debate about it, almost any church of Christ web site or Facebook Group will get you there, in a heart beat. It may very well be the most spiteful and hate-filled discussion you’ll ever try to navigate. The scriptural misquotes devoid of context come fast and furious. Read more